Stuttering, you explain hair first, then you can do your front but can they do your back..this stranger you met such a few short minutes ago begins to wash your hair as you sit passively, trying desperately to find some inane small talk to get over the embarrassment you feel at having this stranger wash you because you cant..
this isnt some sexy stranger 50 shades of grey sex romp its the reality for many people who like me have social services funded care.
The first time is always the worst, but once you get to know them and they you, and if they are bright and chatty you eventually get over the "oh god im naked and I dont know you bit"
imagine if every care visits is like the 1st time, that you dont always know who will come to your door, that like me you might have 5 different carers in 5 visits - is this ok? is this what care is?
I cant always verbally explain what i need, sometimes i feel so god awful, brain fogged and sore i dont want to have to explain..or have to tell yet another stranger about my illness or have them look at me and try to hide the obvious "but you dont look sick" thought as it crosses their mind.
We talk alot about dignity, and affording care,but when profit is put before care, when the Care coordinators forget there is a human being on the receiving end of thier rota decisions people like me have just another tiny bit of their humanity stripped away.
I mean would you want to get naked in front of a stranger and let them touch you intimately?
I accept i need it
I accept someone has to help me
But I dont accept that it should be ok..and when I raise the issue with the agency im met with promises to change it..It should never be ok in the first place.